Friday, November 4, 2011

Just Because I Have To

Okay, I apologize in advance.  This post is going to go all over the place.  And yes, I know I am complaining.
All I want is some adult conversation and to not be needed for an hour.  Longer would be nice, but an hour would be awesome in and of itself.  I sit around my house all day taking care of two kids.  I know, it sounds easy, right?
Well, I have a soon to be 5 year old who now sleeps and night and is up all day.  And a daughter who seems to be going through a constant growth spurt who stays awake all night.  I should also add here that she needs constant human contact, so I'm lucky if I get to eat my microwaved food while it's still hot.  I've been living off of pretzels and cheez-its.  I'm not joking.  I also survive on soda since I really, really need the caffeine and we need to buy coffee filters.  Oh, and even if we did buy them, I wouldn't want to drink it since it is hot and I am constantly holding my daughter and I'm afraid that I would spill since I do that a lot and she would get burned.
I will admit it.  I am jealous of my husband.  He gets to leave the house and talk to other adults.  I know his life isn't all fun and games, but it's really hard to imagine that it's not when I am so tired.  I know he works hard and he's trying really hard to keep up on all his school stuff.
My husband left me the car yesterday when he went to work, just in case I wanted to go somewhere.  Sounds nice, right?  I really could have left and seen people.  Here's the problem:  I'm deathly afraid of cars.  I'm not kidding.  I was in two accidents and for some reason, I freak out at the idea of getting in the car.  If I'm driving, I have to force myself to remain calm.  I only drive when the roads are empty.  You'd think it would end there, right?  No.  It doesn't.  I'm afraid to let other people drive me or even my kids.  I'll admit that when my husband takes my son somewhere without me, I freak out.  I sit in the house and try to take my mind off things.  But if anyone knows how the female brain works, they know it's hard.  I can't barely sit there calmly while my husband is driving me.  He's the only one who can handle my "backseat driving."  I'm constantly reminding him of stop signs and stuff.  Don't get me started when someone else is driving.  I bite my ton and pray the entire time.
Should I go see someone about that?  Yes.  I really should.  However that requires time and money.  We aren't exactly making what my husband made in the military.  When he was in the military, I could have seen someone, but that means that my husband would have to ask for time off and it is pretty much impossible to tell them that something else out there is more important.  Honestly, what's more important than the safety of our Marines?  So I didn't go because again, I would have to find a sitter and drive my husband in to work (rush hour) and then drive myself in to appointments.  No thank you.
Let's be honest.  Most of the women around here suck.  They really do.  I think I met a few great ladies and I really hope so because I need friends.  I need someone I can talk to.  Someone who understands that it gets annoying to never be able to stop and just take a break.
So while I love my family and my life, I am tired.  I am so tired of trying to stay awake since one kid or another is always awake.  I'm tired of having to try to remember everything.  I'm tired of having no one to talk to.  I'm tired of my house being a disaster.
Yes, I am working on changing this.  Thank you for letting me rant.  I'm sorry if you actually read this all.  I just really needed to get it all out of my system.

Birthday Parties

Planning is something that I have turned into a hobby.  I go into every detail of everything I can and I plan it all out.  Now, I may not stick to the plan since I do kind of live in the moment; but I like having one there just in case.
Birthday parties are one of those things that I love planning and hate planning at the same time.  I love researching ideas and coming up with something that is almost original (well, I do get my ideas online after all).  I hate second guessing my decisions and trying to get my husband to give me an opinion on those details that he really doesn't care about since I just can't make up my mind.
This year, I have something considerably smaller planned for my son's fifth birthday.  Last year, we went all out.  He was into superheroes in a major way.  We did a superhero training camp.  We set up inside our house with "pow" and "kachow" type signs we made.  We made each kid a cape (it was cheap and not pretty, but it worked).  We made Gotham City in our backyard.  I'm not kidding.  I went around and got several boxes from Walmart and Sears and I painted them black with yellow windows and made a Gotham City sign.  The kids had a blast running between them and knocking them down.  I even made my husband dress up as Batman and do photos with the kids.  He had fun though.
This year, we are doing Phineas and Ferb.  My son still loves superheros, and pirates, and Toy Story (previous themes), but I want to do something different each year.  This year, we're letting the kids do a craft; we're giving them funky colored fedora hats like Agent P, and we are going to do air guitar with the songs from the cartoon with plastic balloon type guitars.  There are a few other ideas, but I'm trying to keep it so kids from all different age ranges can participate.  Now, I'm just trying to come up with food, cake, and whether or not we will do a pinata.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

FuzziBunz One Size Review

It's about high time that I wrote some reviews on cloth diapers.  I figured that I would start with the ones I use most often.  I use them the most because I have more Fuzzibunz than anything else.  I bought them on sale where you buy six and you get two for free.  They are all one size.  Six of them we bought with the hemp inserts and two came with the usual microfiber.
These are pretty good diapers.  The instructions are a little confusing to people like me who have never seen them let alone any other cloth diaper before.  For those of you who don't know what I am talking about, they have elastic around the legs and the back like the kids pants that you can resize the waist on.  This way, it doesn't have those snaps on the front that can look a little ugly or can come unsnapped when you try to stuff them.
My daughter isn't exactly a heavy wetter, so those hemp inserts aren't exactly needed.  Who knows though, they may come in handy later.  On the smaller settings, which we are using right now, they seem to be harder to stuff than the microfiber inserts.  So if you are strapped for money, get the microfiber which is cheaper anyway.  Unless you have a heavy wetter.  I'm told that hemp is awesome for heavy wetters.
The diaper comes with the insert (whichever one you choose) and an extra set of elastic things.  I haven't had to use those yet.  My daughter is only 8 weeks old after all.  We haven't had to change the settings yet since we got them and I was trying to figure them out.  We'll see how they hold out in the long run.
Also, the inside of the diaper is sticky.  Kind of annoying at first when you are trying to rush through everything because you have a newborn who doesn't exactly understand "hold on a second," but it's pretty handy when you do pre-stuff your pockets since it doesn't let the inserts slide around.
If you like pockets, then go ahead and give these a try.  They even have new ones with little sayings on the back.  My daughter has one that makes her little butt say "Does this make my butt look big?"  Very cute.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Change Number 1

"Why don't you change it?"
A quote I heard recently in reference to someone who doesn't like her life.  Okay, it's from Grey's Anatomy, but it's still an awesome quote.  And it's true too.
Okay, so I love some major parts of my life, but there are some parts that I could do without or even with a change.  And I am going to change it.
Change number one:  Get a Cleaner House
Okay, I have been working on this one for quite some time.  But it's still something that drives me bonkers.  I started with doing some organizing and actually trying to get the house cleaner before I get to bed.  It's still a disaster, but it's getting somewhere.  I'm building up my ability to work very quickly while the baby "naps."
Those of you who have had a needy baby understand this.  Those of you who haven't had one yet... It's hard.  My husband who is the first to complain when the house isn't very clean (okay, he is understanding to a point) has even been letting the house slide along with me.  He watches as I try to get one sink full of dishes done while the baby cries.  He even tries holding her which only works half the time.  We've tried the baby wearing.  It only works when my husband is wearing her.  There are even times we can't stand in one spot or she'll cry bloody murder.
So, where are these wonder robots to help us clean that we were promised by the Jettsons?

Friday, October 28, 2011

How to Have a Smart Child

I recently read an article about different things that factor into your child's IQ. Everyone wants to believe their child is a genius.
My husband will tell you that I totally buy into all the things that can make my child (well, now children) smart. I bought the dvd's that can teach my baby to read. I have several different puzzles, books, flash cards, and school style books to teach my son the alphabet and numbers. I buy games to try to re-enforce learning. My favorite channels to turn to for cartoons are the ones that teach him things.
Honestly, there's only one thing we as parents can do to ensure our children are smart. We can teach them the love of learning. It's not hard. Encourage questions (as annoying as it can sometimes be). Spend time with your child learning something new by doing things like looking up a question on the internet or reading a book.
What age is the best time to do this? Well, now. Okay, it's hard to do this with a 7 week old who doesn't really have questions. But with a 5 year old, it's easy. The earlier you start, the easier it will be.
Okay. Maybe my advise isn't the greatest. My child isn't a genius. I haven't tested his IQ level so he really might be. But I do have a child who comes up with some fairly decent questions, who loves to read, who wants to cook, and who asks to do more school work. Albeit, his "school work" is easy since it's basically like coloring, but it's how preschoolers to do work.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Basic History Lesson: Halloween

Okay, I know I'm going to see many things posted on Facebook about this holiday. I understand that everyone has a right to their opinions and I respect that.
Here is how I see it:
Halloween started out as a holiday for pagans. Yes. Back in the day, the pagans we speak of used to celebrate the end of harvest and the beginning of well death. They thought that the world was going to be dead. They weren't that smart. We already knew that seeing as how they would test to see if someone was a witch by holding them under water for several minutes. If they drowned, they weren't a witch. If they didn't drown, they were. Brilliant, right?
Back to the history lesson- On this day, because the world they saw (all the plants and stuff) died, they would try to appease their gods by doing sacrifices and stuff. When you get a group of people together for any occasion, it turns into a party. We even eat at funerals and sit around and talk. That's not the best type of party, but this wasn't that type of funeral. They ate food, sat around fires, and told stories. Part of this story telling was wearing masks.
Later, when people lived in cities, not villages; the tradition started with the poor begging for food on this holiday. They went around house to house to beg for food. During this time, people were even more superstitious. People actually thought there were vampires and werewolves. To ward off the demons, they put out gourds with candles in them so it wasn't dark outside their doors.
In the US, it eventually became an actual celebration. People were now smart enough to know that winter was only a season and that spring would come. There was no need to sacrifice an animal. But we as people love to celebrate. So instead of sending out the poor to beg for food, we sent out kids to beg for candy. Instead of wearing masks to tell stories, we wore masks for fun.
And the term "trick or treat" was actually started in Canada in the 1800's some time.
For those of you who will still declare that it is a holiday about Satan. Please stop and realize that Christmas was the same holiday, but for a different group of people. These people were just further south where winter started in December instead of October. The reason we bring Christmas trees into our houses is because they thought they were protecting life by bringing it in the house and keeping it alive all winter. The reason that it's celebrated as a Christian holiday now is because Rome knew that they couldn't change everything about a new culture they took over, so the religious people would turn as much of it as they could into something religious if they couldn't outlaw it altogether.
I will once again dress my son up and this year my daughter. We will go trick or treating and get tons of candy. I will take pictures. We already got pumpkins and put candles in them. We will watch scary movies that I know my son can handle (they are his favorite scary ones already). I think it's important to show my son how to handle fear. Fear is natural and does NOT come from the devil. Even Jesus was afraid when he knew death was near, or at least it was preached by several pastors during Easter about the passage where Jesus begs His Father to not make Him drink from the cup. And even more important. It's fun. There's so much going on now in the world let alone just the life in my household that I think it's important set aside times to do things as a family and just have fun.
Now, you can disagree with me all you want to. I will not reply to people's posts or articles. This is just to show you that I have done research. I've dumbed it down the way I always do (it annoys my husband sometimes) since I really don't care for actual dates or names or places.

Friday, August 5, 2011

My Cloth Diaper Facts

Okay, a long time ago (well, I guess not really that long ago), my son turned 18 months old. From watching other moms in my hometown, I knew this was a good age to start potty training. I bought the pull-ups, several books for my son and myself, the potty chair that sang different songs, the whole-shebang. I had used disposable diapers with my son and I preferred Huggies since they fit him better and had fewer rashes than Pampers did (everyone has a different favorite).
If you had asked me about cloth diapers the first time I was pregnant, I would have thought you were nuts since I'd never even heard of them. If you had asked me by the time my son was 18 months old, I would have been able to tell you that I saw advertisements for cute looking ones in Europe. By the time I was done reading the potty training books for adults, it was clear to me that a lot of people seem to be confused when it comes the whole potty area of children.
One book talked about how you can start "potty learning" or "early communication" at 4 months old. It's a different style than the potty training that most of us are used to, but very similar to watching for signs of a baby being hungry before they start crying. Doesn't seem that hard, but it doesn't sound like something for me.
What is confusing is the whole "wait to start potty training until your child can remove his/her pants by themselves." My son will be 5 in about 3 months and he still can't unbutton or button any of his jeans. Albeit, he can slide out of most of them in a hurry, but he'll still come out of the bathroom stall in public places holding his pants with one hand and asking for your help no matter how many strangers are there.
Then there's the whole issue about how back in the day, if your child had a diaper rash, you were called unfit and your child was taken away. I'm not entirely sure how true this statement was or if it was a state by state thing... I had read it in one of my books. My son had diaper rashes. Not all the time, but once he started to get one, it would get ugly quick and turn into a yeast infection and he spent the next 24 hours bare bottomed with anti-fungal stuff on his butt to get rid of it. While a diaper rash happens any time a wet diaper is left on a baby for too long, it's become too common meaning that parents don't know that the diaper is wet and are leaving those wet chemicals on their babies butts and helping diaper rashes turn into worse problems like chemical burns. Do cloth diapered babies get rashes? Yes, but it's supposed to be less common. In fact, if you have tons of issues with rashes, doctors will often recommend cloth diapering.
Okay, here's the reason that hubby and I decided to cloth diaper. Money. We aren't rich and we are learning to cut corners in certain areas. I have heard tons of people claim how much diapers can save you. I have heard just as many people tell me that it really won't save me money. Here's the fact FOR ME. You'll have to do research in your own area to find out if that's right for you.
I bought so far for a newborn (7-12 pounds) 24 prefolds at $1.50 a piece, 1 used diaper and 4 used covers for $28, and 1 new cover for $13, and two snappies at $3.95 a piece. That brings my total to $84.90 for the bare minimum that we could need for up to 12 pounds. Factor in the two dollars I spent on wash clothes to use as wipes and that's $86.90. After that, we can use One-Size (I already bought a few of those, but that's a whole nother math) and those will last us until we potty train.
A box of 192 Huggies diapers will cost $32.80 (including tax) from Walmart (the cheapest place to buy diapers in my town). Huggies wipes will cost $13.34 for one of those big boxes that last us about a month. Let's say I use 12 diapers a day... For 3 months (about the time an average baby weighs 12 pounds), Huggies will cost roughly $196.80 though there will be a few leftover (you can't buy half a box of diapers). The total cost will be $236.82 for disposables.
The total cost for cloth? If you want to factor in water (our bill is about $90 a month for water, waste, and drainage) you can. I won't seeing as how I can toss the dirty diapers in with our normal wash which I do two out of three days a week anyway. I will factor in soap since I'll have to buy a special kind... All free and clear costs about $11.74 with taxes. That's for 96 loads of normal laundry. For cloth you only use 1/4-1/2 so say I went overboard, that's 192 cloth diaper loads which is more than I need for 3 months of just cloth. That brings my total to $98.64.
That's a difference of $138.18. I can pay two water bills with that and still have change. I can go grocery shopping for a week and buy fresh fruits and veggies with that. I can get my son all the pants he'll need this winter. The list goes on with what I can do with that money. More than likely, it'll be used to fill up my husband's car as he goes back and forth to work or it'll be used at a drive-thru on one of the days we shop each month.